Is it me or do playas get the best girls while good men have to pull teeth to find love? Women please answer!!

All my friends are playas and I am the only good guy out the group. Now not to sound cocky but I know I am not ugly but why is it that good girls fall in love with the biggest playas. Like my best friend he is the biggest male whore in the world and he knows it. Yet one of his girls is soooooooo beautiful and such a sweetheart but he constantly cheats on her and she always catches him. Yet she always sticks by his side. Are women attracted to bullshit? This is starting to freak me out because not only do the playas in my group get the good girls. Every man who is a playa gets the good ones while good guys like me are the ones who get treated like crap. So do good guys finish last?

Is it me or do playas get the best girls while good men have to pull teeth to find love? Women please answer!!
Girls are attracted to players until the moment that they want to get serious and have a stable relationship. When the girl matures, she's going to get out of that "bad boy" phase and realize that the guys like you are the ones that are worthwhile :).
Reply:SAME HERE..
Reply:*** YEAH DUDE!! This is bullshit. All those gangter little asholes get all the women and they are big ***** to there women and we Faithful bros get rejected! I don't get it.. Its bull **** tho! I agree with you man
Reply:Some women are attracted to jerks because it proves how "manly" they are. Just keep being the way you're being and you will find a very gorgeous girl that respects herself, that will want to be with you. Until then, watch all the stupid girls fall for your friends!
Reply:ive asked myself that a hundred times.


im sick of seeing all the sweetest of my guy-freinds get screwed over while the a*ssholes get girls that they dont deserve.





the girls that stick to the sides of cheaters are insecure and don't have much self respect.


don't worry about it, good things come to those who wait [as annoying as it may be.]


plus the players never get into a serious relationship; therefore it's empty, shallow, and porblably mostley sexual.


soon enough, you'll be the one they envy, because you have the capability to have a real relationship
Reply:ok..im a girl...but it wont hurt my feelings im helping u...ok...u are proablly rite...u know wut dont care about other ppl...care about urself..u dont want that kinda gurls trust me..it wont last long...find other gurls who u can trust,preetty,and all thoose stuff u like...


so good luck for trying....
Reply:not all women like badboys but heaps like them cos they reckon theyre exiting n wateva (but this girl who nos hes cheating on her should have some self respect) but lots of girls also like goodguys maybe just not the 1s u no tho


rilly u no its the same sorta thing with girls guys always seem 2 fall 4 da slut cos they no shel b easy or sumthin so i hope i could help
Reply:yeah i don't really know why that's the case, but i know that i feel like i'm in a similar situation. i'm a good girl who's never cheated or done anything like that, but i never seem to be able to have a bf for more than a few months and all the WHORES seem to be getting all the guys for like years. like my last bf stayed with his gf for 3 years even though he knew she cheated on him all the time, and i never did that, but he broke up with me after like only a few months. and then another guy wanted to get back with his ex-gf who cheated on him with another guy and got pregnant with him and moved in with him. so i don't know what's with these people, but i feel like me and you are in the same boat, all the girl whores get the guys and i'm always left alone. i'm sure that girls will eventually realize that they've been making mistakes with the wrong guys and they'll eventually come around to you. good luck.
Reply:to be a playa one must be a cocky **** who has no problem approaching girls and smoothtalking them to get them in the sack. given that it takes a lot of confidence to approach the hottest/best girls, the playa does it so often he doesn't think twice about approaching. nice guys would never be so forward. the nice guys usually don't make a move out of consideration for her and fear of rejection, so the girl doesn't have a clue he likes her. the difference is, the playa has the confidence to approach the hot girl. as a gorgeous girl myself, i find only extremely confident men approach me (either very good looking or very well-endowed). i wish a nice guy would approach me, but they never have the nerve. even when i try to convey i like them, i still detect they are nervous and don't make a move. bleh. if you are good looking make a move and dont think twice. it is expected of the male. dont expect her to do it.
Reply:not all women fall for playas. I fell for a good honest guy in a playa group ( he really was different...met his family, was ready to move in with me) ...he said he felt lucky to have me in his life. Was very attentive and loving And then turned out to be like his playa friends; he cheated. Just quit talking to me and moved on to another girl. Point is...if your friends are playas ...wouldn't they rub off on you EvEnTuAlly.


IF you're wonderful guy, stay the same. girls love a kind hearted guy. Be optimistic and hopeful. Don't give up trying. Girls are looking for a sweetheart. Throw in a bit more confidence if you need it.
Reply:Well here is the deal the playas or the bad boys or whatever you wish to call them have the ability to spark sexual attraction in women.





The nice guys or good guys or whatever you wish to call them do not have the skills that get women attracted sexually.





No here is the kicker...This happens on an subconscious level so the women are not even aware of this. It becomes like some kind of mystery to them they never seem to "feel it" or feel "chemestry" for the good guys.





Good or bad this is just a fact of both biology and psychology and there is not a whole lot that men nor women can do about this.





Also, it is a vicious circle for the good guys because they usually don't get anywhere with women sexually and as such their value in the eyes of women is greatly diminished. Here again this is subconscious.





I would say maybe don't become a full on bad boy but you definantly at a minimum need to have some kind of "edge" to you for sure.





If you continue on your path as the pure good guy you are going no place with women sexually!





Oh yeah and to insult to injury you are running the risk of landing in the "friend zone" and this is the worst of all worlds because not only are you not getting sex (nor will you) you are now officially her emotional tampoon. The guy who she tells all of your problems to while in the mean time she is out there having sex with us bad boys.





Sorry this is just a biological fact that you can not get arround.





Lastly don't listen to the media, your friends, your family etc. because all you are going to get is "just be yourself" which is rubish because obviously being yourself is not working now. How/why would it work in the future? These people are well meaning but unfortuantly do not have an understanding of the bioligical forces at work.





What I am telling you is based on hard science with empirical evidence to back it up. "Just be yourself" is nothing more than a meaningless slogan.
Reply:I'm a playa and David L said it perfectly. You can add MANHOOD to YOURSELF. Stop being the nice guys, you ain't going nowhere acting like that. Make your move, stop fearing rejection, it ain't easy but you gotta do it.



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